Hi Reader,

Are you spending time with family in the coming weeks? Whether you’re celebrating Christmas, enjoying national holidays, or simply taking advantage of shared time off, setting an intention for how you’ll show up can make all the difference.

I recently returned to work after 10 days with family and friends. Though I live in Prague, I’m originally from St. Lucia. This year, my dad decided to escape the Ottawa winter and spend a few months in St. Lucia. I joined him for a working holiday—an experience that was both new and rewarding.

It was our first time living or traveling together, just the two of us. Much of our time revolved around food, family stories, and even discussions about his financial future as he prepares for retirement. These candid conversations deepened our connection.

Growing up, my relationship with my dad was challenging. But a few years ago, I decided to rewrite our story by showing up differently—speaking honestly when it matters, setting healthy boundaries, and approaching our differences with curiosity and respect. For example, when conversations turn to politics, I share my views openly without trying to change his mind. I focus on understanding him while revealing a bit more of myself.

One tool that’s helped me is the VIEW framework from Art of Accomplishment: Vulnerability, Impartiality, Empathy, and Wonder.

• Vulnerability: Be open and share authentically.
• Impartiality: Let go of needing to be “right.”
• Empathy: Seek to understand the other person’s feelings.
• Wonder: Approach conversations with curiosity.

As you gather with loved ones, reflect on your recent interactions. Which of these qualities were present? Which would you like more of in your relationships?

Here’s a small challenge for your next family dinner:

• Ask open questions. Instead of leading or accusatory questions, try “What’s been bringing you joy lately?” or “How did that make you feel?” Notice how the tone of your conversations shifts.
• Be playful. How can you make the experience 10% more fun?

You can also listen to my episode, How to Have a Stress-free Holiday Season that Works for YOU, for more tips: Click here to listen now.

It’s easy to slip into old family roles, but intentional conversations can create meaningful change. This holiday, focus on connection, curiosity, and joy.

Need a Hand?​
The holidays can be tough. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a local help line or a trusted friend. And if you’re ready to step into a life of intention, I’d be honored to support you as your coach. Just reply to this email to connect.

Wishing you joy this holiday season!
Damianne

P.S. I'd love to find out what brings you joy right now. Reply to this email to share 1-2 sentences with me.